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Submitted by PatientsEngage on 16 August 2016
An elderly person on a wheelchair looking out to the lake with a male caregiver standing next to him

Sangeeta is a blogger who instills rare insight into her role of a caregiver. She not only chronicles the various methods which work for her father, who has Parkinson's, Dementia and Diplopia, but she backs it up with profound logic and common sense. The best part of her blog is her all-pervading humour which gives such a bitter sweet taste to her snippets of caregiving. Here are her top tips for handling medical emergencies and hospital stays. 

My father  Anna was in a hospital for 20 days. He needed emergency hospital care when he stopped eating while battling viral fever. Within a few hours he was diagnosed with aspiration pneumonia. He was on 24-hour oxygen support for 5 days. The IV fluids continue as he is eating enough to keep a sparrow alive, barely!

Here are lessons learnt from this and other medical emergency experiences. I hope these will help you if you are a caregiver too. Remember, some of these learnings may be valid only for India and/or only for caregivers of patients with degenerative diseases.

 

1.  Have The conversation on end-of-life preferences and care. It is hard to ask a parent what kind of interventions/ care they would like at end-of-life. However hard it may be, have the conversation. A deep detailed conversation. Anna is clear he wants no cardio-pulmonary resuscitation, and no tubes to drain his lungs or feed him. We have talked about how this would lead to more suffering, but he says he does not want to die hooked up to a machine, nor does he want life to be prolonged by drastic interventions. He wants a dignified exit.

2.  Tell the people who need to know. About the patient's end-of-life choices. I have had detailed conversations on the possible progression of his disease and what it can result in. I have let his doctors know what he would like done and not done, with Anna in the room. I have tried to be as detailed as I can, so that his doctors know exactly what is and is not acceptable. I have also communicated Anna's wishes to the immediate family. In India, this can mean in-laws, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. I don't want to hear criticism and second guessing decisions that are my onerous task to make and not theirs.

3.  Abide by the patient's wishes. It is a sacred covenant. In an emergency, you will be asked time and again to take medical decisions. I just stuck by what Anna wants even though I die a little inside, knowing that this could be an end-of-life situation. Everyone, from medical staff to the attendants and the neighbours have a point of view. Some repeat themselves ad nauseam - I stick to my guns and tell them I am abiding by Anna's wishes / instructions. Once I have been forced to tell someone to just "stop it!".

4.  Identify the hospital for emergency care. We prefer to take Anna to a small nursing home because we like the doctors and it is nearby. The doctors are nurturers and healers. They may not have all the specialists that one sees in big places, but we don't want all that. We want a place where Anna and we are comfortable, where we are listened to.

5. Keep a hospital bag ready. A bag with all the essentials - clothes, towels, diapers, toiletries etc. In an emergency, it's easy to pick up a bag. Even if the hospital you choose provides all these things, I would still recommend a bag as it will have the things that the patient is comfortable / familiar with - from the taste of the toothpaste to the feel of the body lotion.

6.  Keep medical papers organized (and in another bag). File papers (prescriptions, results of tests and investigations, etc) chronologically. Sometimes this is an issue when you see more than one specialist as they don't like to flip thru "other doctor's papers". I don't bother about this. I just think of Anna and me as the customer and do what makes me happy. I have 2 major categories - one is Anna's neurologist and then the others.

7.  Make a cheat-sheet of medications. Specially if the patient takes medications from more than one doctor. I created a cheat sheet to help me fill Anna's pill boxes. Every time we have taken Anna to a hospital emergency room, the intake / resident doctor have used the cheat sheet to fill in his chart or change medication / dosage fast.

8.  Keep strips of medication available. When a patient is brought into emergency, after understanding the medical history and current medication, some medication will be stopped in an attempt to stabilise the patient. Then medicines will be re-introduced into the system. At this point the nursing staff may need only 3 of the 15 tablets a patient takes. I keep at least one strip of each medicine available so that I can pull out and give the nurse what is needed at short notice.

9.  Ask questions of medical staff. You need to know what is happening, and why. Ask the doctor questions, and as many as you want. Don't feel guilty about keeping a doctor from other patients, your patient is also important. Ask questions of the resident doctors and nurses. When I get similar answers from all of them, it gives me confidence. Also, it helps me answer questions from well-wishers.

10.  Bribe the patient shamelessly. I tried all I could to get Anna to eat. All his medication has to be taken orally, and hence we had to crush pills and mix it with a teaspoon of soft food / liquid for him to ingest. Getting him to eat was difficult till I bribed him with custard, mashed banana, blitzed mango, upma, halwa, sprite, green coconut water, etc. and voila! he started to eat.

Read tips 11-20 on my blog post 20 Tips For Caregivers To Make Hospital Stays Easier.

Feel free to add points to this in the comments section. I'll keep this list updated on the Caregiver Tips page of my blog Parables of a Parkinson's Patient.

In Parables of a Parkinson's Patient, I share authentic stories of my father, that compare the vibrant man he is before and after Parkinson's Disease. I also share caregiver tips that may help other caregivers of Parkinson's Patients.